Clodagh & Benjamin’s Elegant Cashel Palace Wedding with Old-World Charm

Clodagh and Benjamin’s Cashel Palace wedding was a beautiful fusion of timeless elegance, heartfelt Irish traditions, and warm personal touches. Although they live in New York City, this dynamic couple chose to host their celebration in Ireland, where both families have roots and Clodagh’s side enjoys a long-standing connection to the countryside. From the start, they envisioned a wedding weekend that felt more like a country house party than a formal event – warm, gracious, and effortlessly elegant. The weekend unfolded at Cashel Palace in County Tipperary, with guests travelling from around the world. For many it was their first taste of Irish hospitality, and what a welcome they received!

Cashel Palace is a restored Palladian manor house that offers historical beauty balanced with modern, five-star hospitality. It was only the second venue the couple visited, but once they stepped foot on the grounds, they knew it was the one! Having booked out the property for the weekend, Clodagh and Benjamin treated their guests to a range of country activities, including fly-fishing, golf, kayaking, archery, and walks to the nearby Rock of Cashel. The wedding weekend began with a rehearsal dinner at the hotel’s Michelin-starred restaurant, The Bishop’s Buttery. This was followed by a welcome party with spritzes from an Aperol tuk tuk in the walled garden.

The venue also featured heavily in the stationery for the event. The invitation suite featured artwork from Cashel Palace, and the itinerary booklet featured an antique etching of the Rock of Cashel. A floret used throughout the paper goods was also recreated from the decal utilised throughout the venue’s ballroom.

In true Irish form, the day of the wedding delivered four seasons in one, with a bit of rain just before the ceremony for luck, followed by bursts of sun, dramatic clouds, and golden afternoon light. The ceremony took place in a nearby church, styled with formal arrangements of white flowers and trailing greenery. Clodagh arrived in a 1930s-style Brenchley convertible, wearing a bespoke Phillipa Lepley gown and a lace-edged chapel-length veil. Her classic chignon and pearl-and-diamond earrings completed the look.

The couple also added some special touches to the ceremony itself, including a traditional Irish ring warming. The rings were passed through the pews before the bride’s arrival so that each guest could imbue them with their well wishes. It was a heartfelt moment that made the vows feel all the more meaningful. After the ceremony, guests joined the newlyweds for a joyful procession through the town, led by a piper. Locals came out to cheer them on – one of those delightfully spontaneous moments that only happen in Ireland.

The couple portraits included a detour through nearby cow fields, where the couple posed at the magical 12th-century Hore Abbey, with the Rock of Cashel rising behind them. The dramatic setting, combined with a few good laughs and a bit of mud, resulted in some of the couple’s favourite moments of the entire weekend.

The reception décor was inspired by Irish and English gardens, a mix of formality and wild, organic beauty. The Tara Fay team transformed the ballroom space so that it evoked an orangerie with trees and lavender bushes scattered throughout and a custom stage backdrop of 18th century pastoral murals. Taking their cue from an old world dinner party, the long tables were dressed in pale blue cloths with cream floral detailing. Napkins embroidered with the couple’s custom crest were tied with duck egg blue velvet ribbons with hand-calligraphed names. The florals were lush arrangements of blooms, with moss and fruit spilling out onto the tables. Tall tapered candles cast soft tree shadows on the walls, heightening the illusion of dining in a garden. Each table number featured a vintage botanical print of a flower representing a place significant to the couple’s story, with fun facts on the back for guests to discover.

 

The couple’s love of good food and thoughtful hosting was woven throughout the weekend. One of the highlights was the oyster and Guinness bar during cocktail hour, as a nod to Clodagh’s family’s home in Waterford, which overlooks an oyster farm. Later in the evening, guests were treated to a wedding cake made of stacked wheels of cheese, beautifully decorated with fresh fruit and set on a moss-covered table. The dance floor opened with a classic first dance, followed by a night of music and merriment. The best kind of country house celebration!

It was a true joy to bring Clodagh and Benjamin’s Cashel Palace wedding to life. From the wild beauty of the Irish countryside to the quiet elegance of their details, every moment felt like a page out of a storybook. Wishing them many more adventures together!

Slán go Fóill,
Tara

 

Planner: Tara Fay Events | Reception Venue: Cashel Palace Hotel | Photography: Brosnan Photographic | Ceremony Venue: St. John the Baptist Catholic Church | Welcome Baskets: Eunice Power | Paper Goods Printer: Buckhead Printery | Rehearsal Dinner: The Bishop’s Buttery at Cashel Palace | Welcome Party & Catering: Donoghue’s and The Secret Garden at Cashel Palace | Welcome Party Aperol Spritz Tuktuk: Campari Group | Welcome Party Photographer & Videographer: Cinematic Tide | Traditional Irish Music: Paudie Coen | Wedding Linens & Rentals: Total Event Rental | Hair: David Cashman | Make-up Artist: Christine Lucignano | Florist: The Garden | Set Design & Lighting: Gorilla Design | Bagpiper: Larry Flynn | Vintage Car & Bus Rental: All Events Limos | Embroidered Napkins: Monograms by Gram | Bride’s Night 1 Dress: Vivienne Westwood | Bride’s Night 1 Shoes: Aminua Muaddi | Bride’s Rehearsal Dinner Dress: Huishan Zhang | Shoes: The Happy Isles | Wedding Dress: Phillipa Lepley | Wedding Shoes: Jimmy Choo | Veil: Carolina Herrera | Clutch: Roger Vivier | Bride’s Perfume: Fragonard | Earrings: Jennifer Behr | Bracelet: Cartier | After-party Dress: The New Arrivals | Bride’s Day-after Outfit: Danielle Frankel | Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Brock Collection & Alfred Sung | Mother of the Bride’s Dresses: Emilia Wickstead & Max Mara | Groom’s Rehearsal Dinner Attire: Gieves & Hawkes, Cad & the Dandy & Crockett & Jones | Groom’s Tuxedo: Bergdorf Goodman | Groom’s Shoes: Crockett & Jones

 

 

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Incorporating Traditional Irish Wedding Vows into Your Ceremony

When planning a destination wedding in Ireland, weaving in cultural traditions can add a deeply personal and meaningful touch to your ceremony. One of the most beautiful ways to honour your Irish heritage is by including traditional Irish wedding vows. These vows, often inspired by ancient Celtic customs, carry poetic and heartfelt expressions of love, commitment, and unity. Whether you have Irish ancestry or simply appreciate the beauty of Irish traditions, including these vows will make your wedding ceremony truly memorable.

The Significance of Traditional Irish Wedding Vows

Unlike modern vows that can be extensively personalised, traditional Irish wedding vows have a poetic simplicity that reflects their ancient origins. Many are drawn from ancient Gaelic blessings, poetry, and folklore, reflecting the values of loyalty, devotion, and the enduring nature of love. Some couples choose to exchange their vows in English, while others embrace the lyrical beauty of the Irish language. These vows not only add a sense of history and romance, but also reflect the natural beauty and spiritual essence of Ireland itself.

An Example of Traditional Irish Wedding Vows

One of the most cherished sets of Irish vows is inspired by the ancient Celtic tradition of handfasting. (Although there are many other brilliant and beautiful Irish wedding traditions that are also worthy of consideration for your ceremony.) During this symbolic ritual, the couple’s hands are bound together with a ribbon or cord, representing their union. The vows themselves are beautifully poetic:

“You cannot possess me for I belong to myself
But while we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give.
You cannot command me, for I am a free person
But I pledge to you that it will be your eyes into which I smile every morning,
It will be your lips that I kiss goodnight.
I pledge to you the first bite of my meat and the first drink from my cup.
I pledge to you my living and my dying, equally in your care.
I shall be a shield for your back and you for mine.
I shall not slander you, nor you me.
I shall honour you above all others,
And when we quarrel, we shall do so in private
And tell no strangers our grievances.
This is my wedding vow to you.
This is the marriage of equals.”

These words, rich in sentiment and symbolism, reflect the deep respect and partnership that define a marriage.

Incorporating Irish Traditions

Incorporating traditional Irish wedding vows into your ceremony is a wonderful way to celebrate Irish culture while creating a timeless, meaningful moment. As a wedding planner, I’m delighted to guide you through this heartfelt journey. Whether you opt for a full handfasting ritual or simply include a few lines in your ceremony, these vows are a poetic expression of love that will resonate with you and your guests for years to come. As you plan your Irish wedding, don’t be afraid to embrace the beauty of tradition. It will make your special day unforgettable. Here’s to a lifetime filled with love and happiness, inspired by the timeless traditions of Ireland.

Slán go Fóill,

Tara

Images by John Cain Photography

Legendary Themes for your Irish Destination Wedding: Part II

Ireland’s enchanting mythology is an endless source of inspiration for luxury destination weddings. Beyond the well-known tales in Part I, there are many lesser-known stories that can add a distinctive flair to your legendary Irish destination wedding. These four additional Irish legends can be used to create a wedding theme that is both luxurious and deeply rooted in Irish culture.

The Legend of Cúchulainn

Cúchulainn, known as the Hound of Ulster, is one of Ireland’s greatest mythological heroes. Famous for his strength, courage, and loyalty, Cúchulainn is a central figure in Irish mythology’s epic stories. His tale revolves around his heroic battles, his warrior prowess, and his tragic death, making it a story filled with drama, passion, and nobility.

To plan a legendary wedding around the story of Cúchulainn, you could use a strong, bold colour palette—think deep reds, blacks, and golds—evoking the fierce warrior spirit. For a truly heroic setting, opt for a grand venue such as a castle or a historical battlefield location. Celtic symbols like the triskelion or warrior knots could be subtly incorporated into invitations, table settings, and even the wedding cake. To further tie in the legend, you could host a traditional Irish céilí dance, symbolising the energetic spirit of Cúchulainn’s story.

Fand, Goddess of the Sea

Fand, a sea goddess and the wife of the sea god Manannán mac Lir, is a figure from Irish mythology who represents beauty, mystery, and the power of the ocean. Her story revolves around love and desire, as well as the powerful connection between land and sea. For a wedding that draws on Fand’s legend, a coastal venue along Ireland’s rugged, dramatic shores would be an ideal location.

Incorporate marine elements into your wedding décor—think soft blues, sea greens, and pearlescent tones, alongside shells, sea glass, and coral accents. For a truly luxurious touch, host a seafood feast as part of your wedding meal, celebrating the bounty of the ocean. Guests can enjoy fresh oysters, smoked salmon, and an array of local seafood, all while overlooking the crashing waves. To reflect Fand’s otherworldly beauty, brides could wear delicate, shimmering gowns reminiscent of the ocean’s reflection, with intricate lace or beading to mimic the sparkle of water.

The Legend of the Pooka

The Pooka is a mischievous shapeshifter from Irish folklore, known for taking on various forms, often appearing as a black horse or goat. Though playful, the Pooka can be unpredictable, embodying the wild, untamed aspects of nature. A Pooka-themed wedding can incorporate elements of surprise, playfulness, and whimsy, all while maintaining an air of elegance.

A countryside or forest setting, where nature’s raw beauty is on full display, would be the perfect location for a Pooka-inspired wedding. Use natural, rustic décor—like wooden tables, wildflowers, and ivy—to create an enchanted, untamed atmosphere. Incorporating whimsical elements, such as unexpected performances by roaming musicians or surprise entertainers, can keep your guests delightfully on their toes. In terms of fashion, think flowing, bohemian bridal gowns and floral crowns, channeling the free-spirited, magical essence of the Pooka.

The Morrígan: Goddess of Fate and War

The Morrígan is the powerful goddess of war, fate, and sovereignty in Irish mythology. Often depicted as a shape-shifter, she could appear as a raven or crow, and her presence was said to foretell great battles. While her role in battle might seem grim, the Morrígan also symbolises transformation, fate, and the cycles of life and death, offering a deeper, more spiritual theme for a wedding.

For a Morrígan-themed wedding, you might want to lean into the mystical, dark, and ethereal aspects of the goddess. A black-tie wedding at a gothic castle, with dark, dramatic florals—such as black roses or deep burgundy blooms—could create an atmosphere of timeless elegance and mystery. Incorporating ravens and crows as motifs on invitations or décor could add an intriguing touch, while black and gold accents throughout the design will give the wedding a sense of dark glamour.

Ireland’s mythology offers countless avenues for crafting a luxury destination wedding filled with meaning, magic, and beauty. From the heroic saga of Cúchulainn to the mystical allure of Fand, each legend provides a unique theme that allows you to infuse your wedding with Irish cultural heritage. Whether you’re inspired by the boldness of warriors or the mysterious power of the sea, these stories offer a timeless way to create a wedding that is both luxurious and unforgettable. By incorporating elements of these lesser-known legends, your wedding will stand out as a truly magical and deeply personal celebration.

Slán go Fóill,

Tara

Images by Dermot Culhane Photography, Erik Kelley, and Greg Finck

Legendary Themes for your Irish Destination Wedding: Part I

Ireland’s fairytales and legends are woven into the fabric of its culture, and for couples looking to infuse their destination wedding with the magic of these tales, the possibilities are endless. I believe that drawing on iconic stories and mythical figures can truly create a legendary wedding, as you reflect the rich tapestry of Irish folklore while simultaneously offering a luxury experience in a breathtaking setting. So, let’s explore some popular Irish legends and how they can inspire a wedding day filled with both opulence and enchantment.

The Legend of the Tuatha Dé Danann

The Tuatha Dé Danann are the mythical gods and fairies of Irish folklore, said to have descended from the heavens to rule Ireland. These magical beings were known for their beauty, wisdom, and extraordinary powers. When planning a wedding around the Tuatha Dé Danann, consider a venue steeped in history and mystery, like a castle or an ancient estate nestled in the Irish countryside. Personally, I immediately think of Ashford Castle, an ideal location to bring this legend to life.

For décor, embrace ethereal elements that evoke the spirit of the fairy folk. Think soft twinkling lights, enchanted forest-inspired florals, and tablescapes adorned with moss, ferns, and golden accents. Incorporate harp music and a Celtic handfasting ceremony to deepen the connection to Ireland’s mystical heritage.

The Story of Deirdre of the Sorrows

One of Ireland’s most famous tragic love stories, the tale of Deirdre of the Sorrows, tells the story of a beautiful woman destined to fall in love with a man other than the king she is promised to. The legend is filled with themes of passionate, forbidden love and the ultimate sacrifice. For a wedding inspired by Deirdre’s tale, dramatic and romantic tones can be woven into every detail.

For example, we’d be seeking out a wedding dress that evokes old-world glamour, with rich fabrics like silk and velvet, or flowing lace that embodies the beauty of the legendary Deirdre. Bridesmaids can wear deep, jewel-toned gowns to reflect the intense emotions of the story, while grooms can choose classic, tailored suits or add a Celtic twist with heritage tartan accents.

I would plan to hold your ceremony outdoors with views of the rugged Irish coastline or atop a hill overlooking a loch, reminiscent of the landscapes that serve as the backdrop to so many tragic romances in Irish folklore. Pair this with a candlelit reception for an atmosphere that is both luxurious and imbued with the wistful beauty of the legend.

The Salmon of Knowledge

A legend of wisdom and transformation, the tale of the Salmon of Knowledge recounts how a young hero, Fionn MacCool, accidentally gained all the knowledge of the world by eating a magical salmon. What I love about this theme is that it lends itself beautifully to a wedding centred on growth, wisdom, and new beginnings.

A wedding inspired by this legend could take place near water—whether at the shores of a serene Irish lake or along a windswept beach. Water features, such as fountains or reflective pools, can enhance the sense of serenity and wisdom associated with the tale.

Your menu could be influenced by the legend as well, with salmon dishes as a nod to the famous fish. For décor, choose muted, natural tones paired with gold accents to symbolise the knowledge and wisdom gained. When considering this theme, I thought gifting guests with personalised scrolls containing Irish proverbs or blessings would be a perfect keepsake from a day filled with meaning and legend.

The Legend of Oisín and Tír na nÓg

Oisín’s journey to Tír na nÓg, the land of eternal youth, is one of Ireland’s most enchanting legends. This magical realm, where no one grows old or suffers, symbolises a love that transcends time. For a wedding based on this legend, focus on creating an atmosphere of timeless beauty and elegance.

A luxurious, fairy-tale setting like Dromoland Castle or Lough Eske Castle, with their grand architecture and sprawling gardens, would be perfect for a wedding inspired by Tír na nÓg. Incorporate soft, glowing lighting, cascading flowers, and elements of gold and ivory to evoke the beauty of this eternal land.

You’ll never go wrong with traditional Irish musicians and dancers, who can transport your guests to the mythical otherworld with their evocative performances. To wrap up the vision, I think a breathtaking cake, adorned with Celtic knotwork and symbols from Irish folklore, will further tie in the legendary theme.

Popular Irish fairytales and legends offer a rich source of inspiration for your luxury destination wedding in Ireland. Whether you’re drawn to the mystical elegance of the Tuatha Dé Danann or the tragic romance of Deirdre of the Sorrows, each legend allows you to infuse your day with meaningful, magical elements. Does this theme inspire you? Let’s explore some castle venues, enchanting décor, thoughtful details like Irish-inspired menus and music, and even more aspects to create a wedding that celebrates the timeless beauty of Irish folklore while providing a luxurious experience for you and your guests.

Slán go Fóill,

Tara

Images by Peter Carvill Photography

The Irish Mead Sharing Ceremony: A Symbolic Toast to Love

When I’m asked to weave ancient traditions into elegant, modern celebrations, one of my favourite suggestions is a tradition that has captivated couples seeking a meaningful and unique ritual: the Irish Mead Sharing Ceremony. This ancient Celtic custom, steeped in history and romance, is a beautiful way to symbolise love, prosperity, and the sweet journey of marriage.

The History and Significance of Mead in Irish Weddings

Mead, often referred to as the ‘nectar of the gods,’ is one of the oldest alcoholic beverages in the world and has deep roots in Irish history. Made from fermented honey, water, and herbs, mead was believed to have magical and aphrodisiac properties. In Celtic tradition, newlyweds would drink mead for a full lunar cycle (or a ‘honeymoon’) to promote fertility and ensure a strong and harmonious union. This is where the term ‘honeymoon’ originates, making mead an incredibly symbolic beverage for wedding celebrations.

How the Irish Mead Sharing Ceremony Works

During the ceremony, a beautifully crafted goblet or a pair of engraved chalices filled with mead is presented to the couple. The act of sharing this sacred drink symbolises their commitment to one another and the sweetness of their future together. After exchanging vows, the couple takes turns sipping mead from a shared goblet, signifying their unity and devotion. In some ceremonies, close family members or guests also take part by offering blessings before the couple shares their first sip. Others may ask their parents or closest friends read a meaningful poem before sipping the mead.

Some couples choose to have a bespoke blend of mead created, infused with botanicals that hold personal or cultural significance. The type of mead can also be chosen to suit personal tastes, from a rich, spiced variety to a light, floral-infused blend. Additionally, miniature bottles of mead can be gifted to guests as a luxurious and meaningful keepsake of the special day.

Elevating the Mead Ceremony in a Luxury Setting

For couples planning an opulent destination wedding in Ireland, the Mead Sharing Ceremony can be beautifully tailored to match the grandeur of their venue. Whether set against the backdrop of a majestic castle, a historic estate, or an intimate countryside retreat, this ritual adds a touch of old-world charm and sophistication. I often suggest collaborating with Ireland’s finest mead producers to source premium, locally crafted mead that enhances the experience. Personalised goblets engraved with the couple’s names, wedding date, or a Celtic knot design can be a beautiful and elegant addition. The mead-sharing moment can also be accompanied by a harpist or a traditional Irish toast to create a truly magical atmosphere.

The Irish Mead Sharing Ceremony is a timeless and deeply romantic wedding ritual that perfectly complements the grandeur of a luxury Irish destination wedding. It’s a tradition that sweetens the journey ahead. Whether embraced as a nod to Irish heritage or simply as a heartfelt symbol of love and unity, sharing mead with your beloved (and your beloved guests) is a beautiful way to begin your journey as a married couple—one sip at a time.

Slán go Fóill,

Tara

Images by Anée Atelier and John Cain Photography

What is the Irish Wedding Bell Ceremony?

Breathtaking weddings are steeped in Ireland’s history, culture, and enchantment. One of the most beautiful and symbolic Irish wedding traditions that many couples incorporate into their ceremonies is the Irish Wedding Bell Ceremony. This age-old custom is not only a romantic nod to Ireland’s past but also a meaningful way to bless the couple’s union with love and harmony.

The Significance of Wedding Bells in Irish Tradition

Wedding bells have long been associated with Irish nuptials. Historically, the ringing of bells was believed to ward off evil spirits and ensure a marriage filled with good fortune. The bell’s chime was also thought to bring clarity and peace, reminding couples of their vows during times of difficulty. In modern weddings, this tradition has evolved into the Irish Wedding Bell Ceremony—a heartfelt moment that adds a touch of magic and sentimentality to the celebration.

How the Irish Wedding Bell Ceremony Works

During the ceremony, a small handbell—often crafted from fine silver or a family heirloom—is rung either by the officiant, the couple, or even their guests. This gentle chime symbolises the blessings of love, unity, and everlasting happiness. There are a few different ways to incorporate this tradition into a luxury wedding, and I often work with couples to personalise it to suit their style and preferences.

The Couple’s Bell Ringing: Just before or after exchanging vows, the couple rings the wedding bell together, symbolising their commitment and the joyful beginning of their life as one.

The Guests’ Blessing: Small bells can be distributed among guests, allowing them to ring them in celebration as the couple shares their first kiss or is pronounced married. This creates a stunning auditory experience, reminiscent of church bells ringing in the distance.

A Keepsake Bell: Many couples choose to have a specially designed wedding bell engraved with their names and wedding date, serving as a cherished keepsake that they can ring during anniversaries as a reminder of their vows.

Ringing Away Disputes: A charming interpretation of this tradition suggests that whenever a disagreement arises, ringing the wedding bell will bring harmony back to the marriage, reinforcing the values of love and understanding.

Incorporating Wedding Bells into an Irish Wedding

For couples seeking an exquisite destination wedding in Ireland, the Wedding Bell Ceremony adds a unique cultural and sentimental touch. I often recommend custom-made bells from renowned Irish artisans, featuring intricate Celtic designs, family crests, or even a touch of gold for added opulence. Some couples may choose to incorporate the bell motif into wedding stationery, table décor, or favours to further enhance this elegant theme.

At some of Ireland’s most luxurious wedding venues—think fairytale castles, stately manors, or coastal retreats—the gentle chime of wedding bells can beautifully echo through historic halls or open landscapes, making the moment truly unforgettable.

A Tradition That Stands the Test of Time

The Irish Wedding Bell Ceremony is a poetic and symbolic way to honour Irish heritage while embracing a timeless ritual of love and unity. What I love most about this tradition is knowing the sweet sound of wedding bells will forever resonate as a blessing upon your marriage. Here’s to your lifetime of harmony and happiness.

Slán go Fóill,

Tara

Images by John Cain Photography